One of the key habits that successful people have is planning. It is often what unsuccessful people refuse to do. In specific they develop written plans, which has to do with working smart rather than working hard. Why plan? According to time management experts every hour spent developing a written plan saves anywhere from two […]
13 Myths About Relationship Satisfaction
1. Happy relationship = happy self It is the other way around: Your relationship life is a reflection of your personal emotional state. Your relationship won’t make you happy unless you are. 2. Next time it will be better If you carry the bricks from your past relationship you will end up building the same […]
The Five Stages Of Learning
The following model is used to understand the stages we go through while learning. It is also known as the four stages of competence, or the “conscious competence” learning model. Depending on what source of information you are looking at, it can either be traced back to Abraham Maslow or the Thomas Gordon’ Training. This […]
Relationship Wisdom – 15 Types Of Relationship: Which One Do You Have?
There is often confusion about the kinds of relationship my clients are in, so let me define them here in this article. Any of these can also be stages you go through in your relationship life. Truly compatible: Depending on your definition of the ‘perfect relationship’ this is it. There is a high degree of […]
Grief: Behavioral and Spiritual Reactions
No one is ever prepared to lose a loved one. Whether it was expected or not, it still comes accompanied by shock. Even though we know rationally that death is inescapable we always hope that it won’t or won’t yet happen. Even though grief is an experience that feels like you are going crazy, there […]
Grief: Emotional, Physical and Cognitive Reactions
No one is ever prepared to lose a loved one. Whether it was expected or not, it still comes accompanied by shock. Even though we know rationally that death is inescapable we always hope that it won’t or won’t yet happen.[Tweet ” … and we hope it would not hurt as much as it does… […]
Relationship Wisdom – Repairing Past Hurt
Whenever you find yourself in a relationship you will sooner or later undoubtedly feel hurt. When feeling hurt it is however important to gain awareness over whether this is due to a current situation only or due to accumulated unresolved hurt from your past. Differentiating current and past Imagine growing a garden. You plant flowers, […]
I Want To Stop Feeling This Way – Wisdom On Allowing Feelings
I have stopped counting the number of clients coming to see me asking for ways to stop feeling what they are currently emotionally experiencing. Let’s shed a bit of light on the reasons why and when it might be suggested that you actually do exactly the opposite: allowing it.[Tweet “Why not do the opposite? Allow […]
Meta Programs – All-Or-Nothing Thinking
Do you start sentences with “always” or “never” as the second word? That is what is called ‘all-or-nothing’ thinking or generalising. If you happen to think like that you are most likely rarely (or never?) happy with what you have achieved and are highly critical of yourself and others. Is this me? If you think […]
Meta Programs – Discounting and Counting
Meta Programs are processes that operate at a metal level, which influence other lower mental levels (meta meaning ‘above’). They help you understand how you (and others) make sense of the world, and how you shape your values, beliefs and behaviors. The term meta programs comes from the world of NLP and is widely used […]