1. Happy relationship = happy self
It is the other way around: Your relationship life is a reflection of your personal emotional state. Your relationship won’t make you happy unless you are.
2. Next time it will be better
If you carry the bricks from your past relationship you will end up building the same house. A new relationship will only be as good as where you are at in yourself.
3. Good sex = satisfaction
Yeah, sure… momentarily. The frequency or quality of your sex life however does not guarantee that you are otherwise satisfied with your partner in daily life.
4. Let’s have a family!
Bringing up children will bring you a fair amount of joy and happiness and probably equal the amount of fatigues, stress and challenge. Introducing a child into an otherwise unsatisfactory relationship will probably tip the balance towards additional stress.
5. If only my partner would…
Your partner needs to change and you would be more satisfied. Clearly. Until you find another reason for needed change.
6. Unconditional love is the answer
Sadly, unconditional love is the biggest myth of all! You are in a partnership with someone who fulfills certain criteria and needs. Honestly, otherwise you could be happy with anyone.
7. Open communication will solve everything
Sorry, sometimes it’s better to be silent. Don’t sweat the small stuff.
8. Date nights will bring the spark back
Uninterrupted couple’s time is necessary. Even the most romantic candle light dinner on a sandy beach will only work as much as the two people are prepared to join in.
9. The more sex the better
The key is not the frequency but the compatibility. The problem arises if you have one partner who is sex-driven and other is not.
10. You just got to be honest with each other
Truth is what might be honest in one moment, may be irrelevant in another. Honesty can become an excuse to be tactless or hurtful. Neither brings satisfaction.
11. It is healthy to argue
Without suggesting the opposite, it is also very wise to know when to leave something un-argued.
12. Opposites attract
This is the case in the initial relationship stage but it will make your lasting relationship more challenging, especially conflict resolution style, life style, or libido.
13. Jealousy brings back the lover
Artificially making your partner jealous because you have started flirting with others may create some attention but you haven’t addressed the problem under the surface. Also, it is a rather childish reaction to feeling unloved.
Photo Credit: rachelblumeblog