Recently when coaching a couple regarding their communication I heard myself comment on their way of engaging with each other when listening and heard myself say: “You don’t need to say much in order for someone to feel really listened to.” Having said that, there are some things you need to do or say, even […]
Why Your Are Not Successful in Communicating With Your Partner – Issues of Content
The real reason for communication failures are often the lack of awareness of what is really happening. If you understand what level your challenges truly are and what you are communicating about, whether it is content or structure, you are then able to deal with the real issues. This article will look at the issues […]
Why Your Are Not Successful in Communicating With Your Partner – Issue of Structure
The real reason for communication failures is often the lack of awareness of what is really happening. If you understand what level your challenges truly are and what you are communicating about, whether it is content or structure, you are then able to deal with the real issues. This article will look at the structural […]
Why You Are Not Successful in Communicating With Your Partner
The real reason for communication failures is often the lack of awareness of what is really happening. If you understand what level your challenges truly are and what you are communicating about, whether it is content or structure, you are then able to deal with the real issues. A lot of couples struggle to successfully […]
The Argument Is Never Just About the Issue
This past week I had an argument with my husband. What was happening between us is what I regularly see happening with my relationship coaching clients. I will use my personal experience to show you what I mean. Present and past issues The present issue was about something I had asked him to do before […]
Back by Popular Demand: Love Language Part 5 – Physical Touch
We have long known that physical touch is a way of communicating emotional love. Research projects in the area of child development have made that conclusion: Babies who are held, hugged, and kissed develop a healthier emotional life than those who are left for long periods of time without physical contact. Holding hands, kissing, embracing, […]
What Shall I Write When A Baby Has Died?
Writing a card for a baby who died? If yes, what shall I write? I don’t want to upset the parents… Today, this great and important question reached me by email. I have a friend who has just given birth to twins very prematurely. One of them was unfortunately born dead and the surviving twin is […]
It Is the Relationship Journey That Counts
Today in a client’ session I heard myself say: A happy relationship with your partner might be your goal but it is not the purpose of (relationship) life. Let me explain. The journey that counts The famous quote “It’s not the destination but the journey that counts” leaves some questions unanswered: What is on the […]
Back by Popular Demand: Love Language Part 4 – Acts of Service
Actions like cooking a meal, setting a table, washing dishes, vacuuming, taking out the garbage, moving the grass, changing the cat’s litter tray, etc are all acts of service. They require thought, planning, time, effort, and energy. If done with a positive spirit, they are indeed expressions of love. Within every language, there are many […]
Soul Mate or Partner?
It’s your choice, whether to be in a relationship with your soul mate or your partner. Sometimes they are the same, but not always. And that’s ok.
