The Five Stages Of Learning

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The following model is used to understand the stages we go through while learning. It is also known as the four stages of competence, or the “conscious competence” learning model. Depending on what source of information you are looking at, it can either be traced back to Abraham Maslow or […] Read more »

Meta Programs – All-Or-Nothing Thinking

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Do you start sentences with “always” or “never” as the second word? That is what is called ‘all-or-nothing’ thinking or generalising. If you happen to think like that you are most likely rarely (or never?) happy with what you have achieved and are highly critical of yourself and others. Is […] Read more »

Meta Programs – Discounting and Counting

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Meta Programs are processes that operate at a metal level, which influence other lower mental levels (meta meaning ‘above’). They help you understand how you (and others) make sense of the world, and how you shape your values, beliefs and behaviors. The term meta programs comes from the world of […] Read more »

Understanding Self-Overwhelm Pattern

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Who does not feel overwhelmed at times? I certainly do, more often than I would like to. Today, I have achieved a higher level of insight on the recipe that leads to a number of my overwhelming moments, which I would like to share with you. Have a think about […] Read more »

Are You A ‘Mismatcher’?

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  Knowing whether you are a matcher or a mismatcher or neither can make life much easier. These terms are used in Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) as a person’s ‘Meta-Program’ to describe a person’s habitual thinking patterns. Let’s find out more. What is a mismatcher? In conversations, for example, a […] Read more »

Knowing When to Get Help

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As a counsellor, coach or other therapist we are not exempt from needing help. We all do face life issues that we cannot easily deal with ourselves and need an outside expert to support us. Even though we work in the field of supporting people it does not mean we can easily fix all our own problems. Read more »

Gary Chapman’s Five Love Languages and their use in the Workplace

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This reminded me of the multifaceted usability of Gary Chapman's approach. If you want to read more about the different love languages, you can find plenty of my articles about it here (click here). His approach on teaching us how different people show love and how different people feel the love that you're intending to show them has been an integral part of counselling couples, families and children to understand themselves and each other better. When I've worked with this model with couples I have many times that they come back reporting how it not only improves their relationship with each other but also tought them something about how to relate to their work colleagues, employees, friends, children etc. Read more »

Self Knowledge – Differentiating Intuition From Conditioning

Part of anyone’s personal development will be getting to know yourself and learning to tap into your intuition. At the beginning of that endeavor this can be a not so easy challenge to sort out “what really is intuition and what is all the other ‘crap'”? Conditioning To shed a […] Read more »

Personal Development – Inviting Self-Listening

Have you been listening to your self lately? What are you saying to yourself or out loud and are you paying attention? With everything we say, we share something about our selves. Self-listening is a key to self-knowing and self-development. Read more »

Your Spiritual Journey

The Spiritual Journey (the path of self discovery, self knowledge and self improvement) is a marathon, not a sprint, and there will be big challenges on the journey. The challenges will not all be ones that we are capable of meeting on the first occasion. If we cannot rise to […] Read more »