Entering into a new relationship means starting at the beginning and sharing your story with each other. The older you get and the more experiences you have collected, the more potential for aspects of your past that seems unworthy of sharing. Maybe some of your experiences make you feel guilty, ashamed or even disgusted with […]
What You Don’t Want In a Relationship
This week I heard the song “I can’t go for that” by Rumer and Daryl Hall. It made me ponder the question of relationship boundaries. Have you thought about where your boundaries in relationship are lately? Ponder with me… The beginning We usually start out with a relationship being in ‘head-over-heels’ love for one another […]
Back by Popular Demand Series: Love Language Part 2 – Quality Time
Within every language, there are many dialects. Here below you will find just a few but in the end you need to understand your spouse’s dialect. Togetherness: Spending time together with focused attention. What happens on an emotional level is what matters. It communicates that you care about each other, that you enjoy being with […]
Back by Popular Demand Series: Love Language Part 1 – Words of Affirmation
Verbal compliments, or words of affirmation, are powerful communicators of love. They are best expressed in simple, straightforward statements of affirmation, such as: “You look sharp in that suit.” “Do you ever look nice in that dress! Wow!” “You must be the best potato cook in the world. I love these potatoes.” “I really appreciate […]
Back by Popular Demand Series: The 5 Love Languages
So what are the 5 Love Languages? Each person feels and shows love in different ways. Let’s see if you recognize yourself and your loved ones by reading the description of the 5 Love Languages. [Tweet “Pop psychology? Knowing about this one has its benefit…”] Words of Affirmation This person needs acknowledgment for who they are and […]
Drama Triangle And How To Avoid It
Getting hooked into a drama happens quickly, especially in close relationships. The following article will help you understand the different roles played and how to step out of the cycle altogether. What Drama? Stephen Karpman has first described the drama triangle in an article in 1968. The model shows the three positions people often […]
Healing Your Relationship One Day at a Time
If your relationship has deteriorated over the past weeks, months or years you might be wondering what you can do to turn the ship around. Given you are reading this article, that suggests that you have the willingness to do whatever it takes and are looking for ways to heal your relationship. Relationships become a […]
‘Why Marriages Succeed or Fail And How To Make Yours Last’ By Dr John Gottman
Dr. John Gottman says: ‘If there is one lesson I have learned from my years of research it is that a lasting marriage results from a couple’s ability to resolve the conflicts that are inevitable in any relationship’. The following book is not just a couples therapist’s opinion but a compilation of the findings of […]
Why Unconditional Love Is A Hoax
What? So what I have been working towards was all for nothing? No, you’re wrong. It’s all that matters in love! Are these or similar the thoughts going through your mind? Let me enlighten you on a popular topic. What is unconditional love anyway? Well, it all depends on the definition, the origin and the […]
6 Steps To Take When In Relationship Conflict – Relationship Wisdom
Conflict in relationship is often the pivotal point that leads to unhappiness and dissatisfaction of the relationship. Let’s have a look at conflict from a different point of view to turn it into opportunity to grow and learn instead of an “I win – you loose” scenario. Relationship purpose The ultimate purpose of every relationship, […]