Being in a relationship where two people are from the same culture and country is already a challenge – imagine those couples that are from different cultures and countries! I am in one of those relationships. Multicultural relationships versus multinational relationships Multicultural relationships, as the name says, are when two people from different cultures meet, […]
Relationship Wisdom – Being a Literal or Inferential Person
Sometimes it is just that knowing something additional, even if it is a seemingly little thing, can alter a relationship pattern that makes a big difference. The following article will hopefully provide you with one of those meaningful pieces of wisdom in terms of how different people perceive the world. Literal and inferential This is […]
Relationship Wisdom – Stonewalling Versus Criticising
In an intimate relationship there are common dynamics of interactions. One of them I deal with in couple clients is the stonewalling versus criticising dynamic. This dynamic is one that can become entrenched in a couple’s engagement with each other and lead to severe dissatisfaction with the relationship. What relationship research shows Relationship expert Dr […]
The Lie of Strength
Have you ever thought about NOT having to be strong? I found this on a blog and I think it’s well worth considering: I don’t think it’s a virtue or an accomplishment to hide or deny your pain so that you can take care of others. We tell people they are “strong” when we are […]
Being With a Grieving Parent
Relationship Wisdom – Skillfully Disagreeing With Your Partner
Let’s face it: disagreements are a natural component of every relationship. If you are one of those people saying: ‘I just don’t want to argue’ you have to get real. You can work on your style of how you handle disagreement or arguments but rarely (never) will you live in an intimate relationship without any of it.
Video Call
Nowadays with the technology available it is possible to have your counsellor come to your home – via Video Call. There are multiple ways to do this but I found, for the time being, Skype and Face Time two very useful ways to do this. Skype: Skype has been around for some time and the […]
It’s 4 weeks today
4 weeks ago I gave birth. I wonder where I was in all this time in between. It seems that my body was moving through the e-motions and yet my memory is lacking. What just happened to me and my life? Nothing seems to be simple anymore. In some moments nothing makes sense. I find […]
Gary Chapman’s Five Love Languages and their use in the Workplace
This reminded me of the multifaceted usability of Gary Chapman’s approach. If you want to read more about the different love languages, you can find plenty of my articles about it here (click here). His approach on teaching us how different people show love and how different people feel the love that you’re intending to show them has been an integral part of counselling couples, families and children to understand themselves and each other better. When I’ve worked with this model with couples I have many times that they come back reporting how it not only improves their relationship with each other but also tought them something about how to relate to their work colleagues, employees, friends, children etc.