Recently when coaching a couple regarding their communication I heard myself comment on their way of engaging with each other when listening and heard myself say: “You don’t need to say much in order for someone to feel really listened to.” Having said that, there are some things you need to do or say, even […]
Why Your Are Not Successful in Communicating With Your Partner – Issues of Content
The real reason for communication failures are often the lack of awareness of what is really happening. If you understand what level your challenges truly are and what you are communicating about, whether it is content or structure, you are then able to deal with the real issues. This article will look at the issues […]
Why Your Are Not Successful in Communicating With Your Partner – Issue of Structure
The real reason for communication failures is often the lack of awareness of what is really happening. If you understand what level your challenges truly are and what you are communicating about, whether it is content or structure, you are then able to deal with the real issues. This article will look at the structural […]
Why You Are Not Successful in Communicating With Your Partner
The real reason for communication failures is often the lack of awareness of what is really happening. If you understand what level your challenges truly are and what you are communicating about, whether it is content or structure, you are then able to deal with the real issues. A lot of couples struggle to successfully […]
Drama Triangle And How To Avoid It
Getting hooked into a drama happens quickly, especially in close relationships. The following article will help you understand the different roles played and how to step out of the cycle altogether. What Drama? Stephen Karpman has first described the drama triangle in an article in 1968. The model shows the three positions people often […]
Why Taking Measures Against Phone and Email Overwhelm Is Vital
In today’s world there is more and more that leads to overwhelm: we are accessible 24/7 through our mobile phones and email. Not only that, we have come to treat most (or all) of our emails and phone calls as ‘must respond’ items. Because we can access them on all of our mobile devices, it […]
Meta Programs – All-Or-Nothing Thinking
Do you start sentences with “always” or “never” as the second word? That is what is called ‘all-or-nothing’ thinking or generalising. If you happen to think like that you are most likely rarely (or never?) happy with what you have achieved and are highly critical of yourself and others. Is this me? If you think […]
Relationship Wisdom – 10 Communication Keys
In relationship communication we fall into the traps of ‘heard that before’ and ‘I know what he or she is going to say’. We often listen more to our own mind chatter than to the conversation that is going on in real life. We have failed to attend to our own needs and are therefore […]
Relationship Wisdom – Think Before You Speak
When you have been in relationship for a while, you might have noticed that the way you say things to your partner have changed from the beginning. What happened to the adoring conversations with this wonderful man who did everything for you? What about the sexy chats with the super cute woman that you dated? […]
Relationship Wisdom – Old Family Patterns
My husband, my daughter and I are currently sharing living space with my father and sometimes his new partner. Today after breakfast my father said to his partner: ‘I will do it!’, pointing at the dishes on the table, as she was rushing to get ready. As he carried out the plates into the kitchen, […]